Saturday, October 17, 2009

glad as I can be!!!!

Do they still sing that song in primary? I don't know but it sure does explain how I am feeling right now. Only 13 more hours til Brady comes home. It has been 10 days and I am dying!!

We have learned something interesting the last 6 or so months of doing this. I am good at handeling the single mom thing. I'm actually quite apt at it.... for 7 days. On day 8 I start to get snippy, the kids get ornery and start talking back, and we realise just how much we miss Daddy.

Don't get me wrong, we miss him the first 7 days, but we REALLY miss him on day 8, and by day 10- Mommy needs Daddy home. I need a break... I need someone else who can-

Fix dinner
Tell the kids to do their chores
Tuck the kids in
Clean up the living room
Switch over the laundry,
or maybe even keep it running
Vacuum up gross bugs
Supervise the cleaning of the kitchen
or a bathroom or two

Someone else to help!!!

I guess thats not quite true, I need more than someone elses help. I need someone who cares as much about all these little things as I do, because it is our house and our children. I need someone else to sit with and argue about what to watch on TV. I just NEED his presence. Having him here it just different. Even if he's not feeling very helpful, his presence competes me. I am complete when we are together, whether he is in the basement working, or laying next to me in bed. Whether he is wrapped up in his computer or we are discussing our life, his presence makes me whole.

So tomorrow around noon-
I will clap my hands and shout for joy,
because my better half will be home and life will be complete again.

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Do you recognize this pest? It's correct name is the Box Elder Bug, often referred to here in Utah as the "October Bug" because of the coloring and timing of the year. My home is currently infested!!! I hate these bugs... I hate all bugs!!

These little guys don't bite, dont carry disease but they are creepy and they fly. I have HUGE south facing windows that get sun all day and these bugs love the heat it creates. So they cover the window and find their way inside.

Can we say "YUCK!"

Chemicals don't work on them, they only stay for about 2 months, and they are EVERYWHERE!!! The windows are crawling inside and out with little bugs. They are on my lamps, on the floor, on my computer, EVERYWHERE!!!

And you cant squash them. They crunch and smell like stink bugs. According to the internet the best defense is your vacuum. So I sit at my computer with my vacuum and hose and vacuum them up when they get near me.

Despite what is says on the internet I am going to call my father-in-law the bug sprayer and ask him to spray the back of my house anyway, even it it helps a little it will be worth it. If I find my camera I will post a picture of the disgusting things covering my windows.

Saturday, October 10, 2009

It is crazy how long it has been since I have posted to this blog. I have been crazy busy and it has been hard to find time to go down to the office and dedicate any large amount of time to sit in front of my computer. So I made an executive decision. Brady is out of town, so I moved my computer up to the family room. This way it is more a part of every day life. The boys are excited to have a computer that is easier to access for their games, and I can keep an eye on what they are doing. No more pre-teen boys locked away in a corner office on the computer anymore.

So we are back into meet/competition season at the gym. So my hours are up, and I am busy most weekends. I spent today at a meet in Bountiful, next week a gym in West Valley and one in Ogden the week after that. I have a meet most weekends till the end of November.

We have been lucky to have Brady home for the last couple weeks. Sadly he had to leave again on Thursday, but will be back on Friday night. I go through phases. Sometimes it's no big deal to have him gone, other times, I can't handle it, and feel like I am going to go crazy. My poor husband doesnt know how to handle these mood swings.

Kids are busy at school, the usual things. Katrina's working on her first science project, Tyler LOVES everyday, and Carter got in his first fist fight... oh the joys of having boys!!!


Sunday, September 6, 2009

Today is Sunday. Brady got called to a home in Heber that is having Vantage issues so it's just the kids and I. Church doesnt start til 1 so we are having a very relaxing morning just hanging out together. It's wonderful that everyone is old enough to get themselves ready. It makes Sunday Mornings so much easier.

Yesterday we spent the day doing laundry, and refreshing everyones knowledge of how to sort, wash, dry and fold their own clothes. We seam to go in cycles. Every.ne does really well for a couple weeks, then the job seams to fall back on me.

I know a lot has to do with our crazy schedule, between Brady's travel, my coaching hours, and the kids school and social lifes there is not a lot of "routine" to our lives. This is one of the things I am currently working on. I got a Blackberry, (my fabulous sister in law gave me her old one) and I have spent the last week getting everyones schedules onto one calender. I am trying to start using Google Calender, hoping that will help a little.

Katrina is off her crutches, but still in her "shoe" for a few more weeks. But Doc says she's healing well. She has discovered the telephone. I always knew it would happen one day and that day is here. Her best friend has a cell phone so they are always on the phone. Sadie called Kartrina the other night to tell her there was a movie on disney that she wanted them to watch together, on the phone!! Seriously?

So today is a nice lazy day.... today we will enjoy our time... just be us...

Friday, September 4, 2009

so i got a blackberry. im trying out this app called cellspin that allows me to post from my new toy to blogger. im trying to get my life a little more organized. this thing has some really cool apps that help... but its a bit like facebook and i can get sucked in really easy!

Friday, August 28, 2009

I read Lizzie's blog today, and realised it's been quiet a while since I have updated my blog. I often feel I don't have anything new to share and I know I'm not nearly as creative and entertaining a writer as Amy, so I often opt out.

So I thought I'd take a minute to share our most recent changes.

The kids are back in school. Katrina is still on crutches and actually in a wheelchair while at school. Her foot is broken in 2 different places. her pinkie toe is broken clear through, as well as a small bone on the outside edge of her foot, that is connected to a tendon. So she is not supposed to put any weight on it for fear it will never heal correctly. We go back to the Dr. on Wednesday for another set of extras and instructions for the next couple weeks.

I spent last weekend in California attending Region 1 USGA Congress. That is a 3 day training for gymnastics instructors and judges. There are 8 hours of classes a day, taught by the countries top gymnastics experts. It was fascinating. I learned so much. By the end of the three days my brain was exploding, and I was exhausted. I had to take a nap on Monday to try to recover.

I got home late Sunday night, then Brady left again Monday morning. He will be back next Monday. He's working hard for Chad. The goal to get a month of work into 14 days is a lot. He says it motivates him to work a lot harder. He gets more done in one day then he did in 3 days working a standard corporate job.

It's been hard this trip, his trip is only 8 days, but I was gone for 4 days before that. So I'm starting to reach the end of my rope with the kids. It's been exasperated by the fact we are all so sick. We all have the goop that Megan and Ben are dealing with. I've been sick for 3 days, horrible stomach cramps. Carter missed 2 days, and Trina stayed home today. The hardest part is how tired I am. I can't get the energy to get going. 5 minutes of being up, I'm exhausted and fall back on the couch. No amount of sleep helps. I'm still exhausted.

Well, that's our month in a nut shell. We are all anxious for Daddy to come home, and I think we'll plan a dingus day when he gets back. Time for some serious family time!!

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

This story really hit home for me. Today was the first day of school. As we walked threw the doors of the school my children were greated by many familiar friends and faces despite the short time they actually attended this school last year. We found Katrinas class, and as I rolled her in (via her wheelchair) 4 different girls called out her name to say hi, and 2 girls came over to ask if they could help her out.

My gratitude to these girls is not because of Katrinas broken foot, rather her disablities that at other schools have lead to problems with her fitting in and making good friend. Many girls at our new school have really gone out of their way to include Katrina and become good friends with her. I am greatful to the parents of these girls who have taught them the value of looking beyond apperances and not jumping to conclusions because of someones situation or disablitilies.


At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and itsdedicated staff, he offered a question:


'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?' The audience was stilled by the query.
The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'
Then he told the following story:

Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps. I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.' Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.

In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again.

Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat. At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball. However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact...

The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher. The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game. Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!'

Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled. Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!' Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder ha d the ball the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head.

Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home. All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay' Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third! Shay, run to third!' As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!' Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.


'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'. Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO THIS STORY:
We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate. The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces.

If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the 'appropriate' ones to receive this type of message Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference. We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the 'natural order of things.' So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice:

Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?
A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them.
You now have two choices:
1. Delete
2. Forward

May your day, be a Shay Day.