Friday, August 28, 2009

I read Lizzie's blog today, and realised it's been quiet a while since I have updated my blog. I often feel I don't have anything new to share and I know I'm not nearly as creative and entertaining a writer as Amy, so I often opt out.

So I thought I'd take a minute to share our most recent changes.

The kids are back in school. Katrina is still on crutches and actually in a wheelchair while at school. Her foot is broken in 2 different places. her pinkie toe is broken clear through, as well as a small bone on the outside edge of her foot, that is connected to a tendon. So she is not supposed to put any weight on it for fear it will never heal correctly. We go back to the Dr. on Wednesday for another set of extras and instructions for the next couple weeks.

I spent last weekend in California attending Region 1 USGA Congress. That is a 3 day training for gymnastics instructors and judges. There are 8 hours of classes a day, taught by the countries top gymnastics experts. It was fascinating. I learned so much. By the end of the three days my brain was exploding, and I was exhausted. I had to take a nap on Monday to try to recover.

I got home late Sunday night, then Brady left again Monday morning. He will be back next Monday. He's working hard for Chad. The goal to get a month of work into 14 days is a lot. He says it motivates him to work a lot harder. He gets more done in one day then he did in 3 days working a standard corporate job.

It's been hard this trip, his trip is only 8 days, but I was gone for 4 days before that. So I'm starting to reach the end of my rope with the kids. It's been exasperated by the fact we are all so sick. We all have the goop that Megan and Ben are dealing with. I've been sick for 3 days, horrible stomach cramps. Carter missed 2 days, and Trina stayed home today. The hardest part is how tired I am. I can't get the energy to get going. 5 minutes of being up, I'm exhausted and fall back on the couch. No amount of sleep helps. I'm still exhausted.

Well, that's our month in a nut shell. We are all anxious for Daddy to come home, and I think we'll plan a dingus day when he gets back. Time for some serious family time!!

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

This story really hit home for me. Today was the first day of school. As we walked threw the doors of the school my children were greated by many familiar friends and faces despite the short time they actually attended this school last year. We found Katrinas class, and as I rolled her in (via her wheelchair) 4 different girls called out her name to say hi, and 2 girls came over to ask if they could help her out.

My gratitude to these girls is not because of Katrinas broken foot, rather her disablities that at other schools have lead to problems with her fitting in and making good friend. Many girls at our new school have really gone out of their way to include Katrina and become good friends with her. I am greatful to the parents of these girls who have taught them the value of looking beyond apperances and not jumping to conclusions because of someones situation or disablitilies.


At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and itsdedicated staff, he offered a question:


'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?' The audience was stilled by the query.
The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'
Then he told the following story:

Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?' I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps. I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.' Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.

In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again.

Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat. At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball. However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact...

The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher. The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game. Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!'

Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled. Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!' Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder ha d the ball the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head.

Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home. All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay' Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third! Shay, run to third!' As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!' Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.


'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'. Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

AND NOW A LITTLE FOOT NOTE TO THIS STORY:
We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate. The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces.

If you're thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you're probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren't the 'appropriate' ones to receive this type of message Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference. We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realize the 'natural order of things.' So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice:

Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?
A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them.
You now have two choices:
1. Delete
2. Forward

May your day, be a Shay Day.

Monday, August 10, 2009


Broken bone #5

Katrina is 10 years old an so far has had 3 broken arms, a broken knee, 15 stitches, and now a broken foot. She was doing a handstand in the basement, when she lost her balance and fell over, and hit her foot on the window sill. Most kids would have a nasty bruise, maybe some swelling, but not Katrina, she has a "dancers fracture." She is on crutches with a boot thing and we will be headed to a orthopedist in the next few days to see what the plan is.

what a great way to start the new school year

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Lisa (my maid) txted me today to see if I needed any help.

Hmmmm..... no, not really, We're doing fine. Kids are doing great at their chores.... but ohhhh.... to have REALLY clean toilets, and that just cleaned smell.... it's almost as good as the "new car smell" or maybe it's even better.

So my answer to her was, "Sure, when can you come by?"

They came by today, my house is SOOO nice and clean. Everything is dusted, clean and sparkling. The blinds are clean, the baseboards are wiped down, you could eat off the toilets.... I love my maids, and I am truly weak!!!

But alas, I can not afford to return to my bi-weekly gig, maybe I can talk Brady into only once a month. Thats not so bad is it?